Relationship is Everything.

Whether the connection is that of the experienced veteran and the “newbie”, or of the director and our students, relationship is everything.

Mentoring is just another form of teaching and is one of the most impactful opportunities we can utilize in building relationships.  It is beneficial and enriching to both those mentoring and to those being mentored. Just as we do with our students, mentors share their experiences and guide colleagues who are just beginning this wonderful journey of teaching orchestra.

Mentor or Coach? Mentors share their orchestra teaching knowledge, skills and experience; as a coach, we provide structured guidance to help new teachers realize their goals and potential. In essence, we are both! Either way, the goal is to provide intentional goal-focused-support tailored to meet the unique needs of each teacher. 

Taking the time to invest in the relationship between mentor and mentee is essential to all other aspects. The two will celebrate successes and process struggles together. This involves vulnerability, and there must be trust established in the relationship in order for growth to occur. It is important for the mentee to know that the mentor’s role is not evaluative in any way, and for both to maintain confidentiality in the relationship. 

In addition to observing and collaborating, it is good to occasionally meet at Starbucks after school or for lunch off-campus. This affords opportunities to further cultivate the relationship. The bonus is that newbies share their trials and tribulations with each other!  Mentors can accompany mentees to observe other teachers.  Set specific goals beforehand and then discuss notes afterward. All of this builds relationship. 

A relationship where mentees can feel safe sharing their best, and their most challenging moments, with their mentor is key. We know we have achieved this deeper level of relationship when mentees send texts like these to their mentor: “I really messed up in 3rd period today. Are you available to talk?” or “My 7th period was so well behaved today!  What we talked about worked!” 

Ah. Now, we’re growing!

Charlotte Moellering